You need to read The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck. Please excuse the bad language, for the lessons this book offers, its well worth it.

It taught me three key things.

  1. We CHOOSE what to give a f*ck about. So choose wisely.
  2. It’s okay to have negative experiences. Pain, failure and sadness are all necessary parts of growth.
  3. Solving problems is our key to happiness, so start solving problems you’re passionate about.

Author Mark Manson says he offers a “counterintuitive approach to living a good life”. And oh boy, does he ever!

In a world where we’re geared to avoid our emotions and constantly “focus on the positive” (rather than dealing with our issues), this book offers a refreshing approach to navigating life. It’s well worth a read if you’re feeling caught up in workplace drama, unsure about your career direction or feeling a little sorry for yourself.

It put a lot in perspective for me. I’ve pulled a few quotes to demonstrate…

“You must give a f*ck about something…the question then, is, What do we give a f*ck about? What are we choosing to give a f*ck about?”

“Real, serious, lifelong fulfillment and meaning have to be earned through the choosing and managing of our struggles.”

“One must suffer emotional pain to develop greater emotional resilience, a stronger sense of self, increased compassion, and a generally happy life.”

“Pain is part of the process.”

“There is a simple realization from which all personal improvement and growth emerges… we don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.”

If I still haven’t convinced you to read the book, let me roll out the icing on the cake. Chris Hemsworth wrote the featured review that’s printed on the book cover:

“Hilarious, confronting and damn refreshing, it’s more than a practical guidebook to choosing what’s important or unimportant in our lives. It’s a brutally honest and much needed reality check about our personal problems, fears and expectations… A good kick in the arse that I needed!”

Now I don’t know about you but when Thor says jump, I can’t help but ask, “How high?”

Buy the book here, or borrow it from a mate. You won’t be sorry.

Until next time,
Madeleine xo

Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
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